My boyfriend keeps texting his Ex and that makes it difficult for me to trust him

My boyfriend and I have been together for six years, and we are both divorced. We plan on getting married in six months, and he is a perfect partner except for one thing.

Every holiday, he jumps out of bed in the morning and takes his phone with him into the bathroom.

There, he texts his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend, feeling the need to wish them a happy whatever holiday it is. This hurts my feelings, and I don’t understand why it’s so important for him to contact them.

Apparently, they are the first thing on his mind every holiday, or perhaps every day.

I don’t know if I should marry him because I believe he still loves his ex-wife. I need help.

Dear Suspicious,

I assume that you have talked to your boyfriend about this issue at least once in the past six years.

If he knows that texting his exes in the bathroom makes you feel insecure, then he should try to change that behavior.

If you are still suspicious that he may still be in love with his ex-wife, then you should not marry him.

However, since you plan on taking your relationship to the next level, it’s time for you to seek premarital counseling.

You can discuss topics such as money, child-rearing, and whatever makes you uncomfortable (and vice versa). This counseling should help you avoid conflicts once you are married.