In the fall of 2021, months after moving from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania to Grand Rapids, Michigan, I was still settling into my new house.
Several unopened boxes and artwork were still propped against the dresser. The missing item in my room was mostly a mirror.
As soon as I arrived in Michigan, I purchased one from a local thrift store with the intention of painting the borders to add some color to my home. I discovered months later that I had neglected to give the mirror an appropriate home; it was still gathering dust in a corner of my house.
And so, what began as disdain for a basic activity developed into a nine-month-long experiment in fashion without what I had previously seen as a vital component of my daily routine.
Despite the fact that I’ve since returned to using a mirror and have relocated back to Philadelphia, I learned some skills that helped me dress with more confidence throughout my time without one.
I discovered it is acceptable to prefer comfort over style.
I am most confident when wearing garments that do not constrict or pull my body.
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After the peak of the coronavirus pandemic, when the world began to reopen, I discovered that “maximalist” fashion was once again popular. Jewels, feathers, vivid hues, and daring silhouettes dominated my social media feeds, but I knew I wasn’t quite ready to leave up my warm clothes.
Dressing without a mirror allowed me to concentrate on my emotions rather than my appearance. I’ve always been drawn to clothes that don’t pinch my stomach or tighten my ribcage, so I’ve been able to stay true to my personal style rather than allowing the trend cycle dictate my wardrobe.
As my style continues to develop, I no longer fear combining free, baggy garments with more structured items.
I realized I don’t have to wear clothing that ‘flatters’ me.
Even though traditional guidelines state that short people shouldn’t wear large patterns, I adored this vintage outfit.
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In the past, my outfits centered on pieces that “flattered” me, such as those that made my waist appear tiny, my legs appear long, and my bust appear raised. I learned that styles that often flatter my body type did not always complement my particular style.
I now view my attire as a kind of self-expression. Despite being petite and having a few curves, I enjoy wearing big styles, long skirts, and complex patterns. My mirrorless months offered as a reminder that obeying the rules is not always necessary in contemporary fashion.
I learned to trust my instincts when it comes to fashion. I was able to save time getting ready by combining classic pieces for a sophisticated, pulled-together appearance.
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Before I got rid of my mirror, I would frequently imagine how outfits would appear on me before trying them on. When I put on clothes in real life, doubt always crept in, and I talked myself out of doing new things.
The first time I dressed for a night out without a mirror, I was still confused. I wanted to appear effortless and cool, but I didn’t know how to do it without glancing at myself. I had no choice except to rely only on my gut.
Over time, it got simpler for me to let go of my uncertainty. I believed that I could make the best decision, and as a result, I became a more confident dresser.
I discovered I can save time dressing without a mirror.
I also feel more confident rewearing wardrobe staples, such as the denim jacket handed down to me by my father.
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I was compelled to make a decision and stick with it regarding my footwear and handbag, as opposed to vacillating. Despite the initial worry, I like having more time to focus on other activities, such as applying cosmetics or sitting on the couch.
On days when I had to get ready quickly, I knew that getting dressed would be one less concern.
I was reminded that clothes are not like tattoos — they fade away at the end of the day. Initially, I wore this jumpsuit with shoes, but I later learned that I preferred it with brown boots.
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Even though dressing without a mirror helped me feel more confident in my fashion sense, I knew not every ensemble would be a triumph. On days when I thought that nothing looked good on me, I carried the image of myself in the mirror in my head, which increased my self-consciousness.
Without a full-length mirror, I could only see myself through bathroom mirrors and window reflections. If I didn’t like how I appeared, I had to rock it until the day’s conclusion. Once I arrived home, I would change into something that made me feel safe and comfortable, ready to try again the following day. It was a necessary change that allowed me to be present in my life, despite the fact that it did not always feel pleasant.
As I continue to build my personal style, I am grateful I never hung up that mirror. I discovered that all I have when it comes to fashion is me and a closet full of options, which has never been more thrilling.