After 13 years at the same employer, I’m seeking for other employment opportunities.
My present supervisor informed me that he will not provide a favorable reference because he does not want me to leave the firm. How should I approach prospective employers? I have never received a reprimand, and all of my performance assessments have been exceptional.
My initial reaction was that it was amusing and charming that your boss likes you so much that he jokes that he won’t let you leave. Then, though, pictures of a psychotic employer invaded my mind.
If you’ve discussed the possibility of him seeking a new challenge with him and you’re certain he’s serious, I’m curious about how he handles his personal connections. Not to worry, however. The majority of job searchers accept new positions without their employers’ knowledge, therefore they are never required to provide them as references.
When you receive a job offer that you wish to accept, use references from former supervisors, colleagues, and other respected leaders, and then inform HR of what your current supervisor stated.
My supervisor plainly shows favoritism by giving my coworker better assignments. He also treats her better in general. What should I do?
Favoritism resides in the mind of the observer. While the majority of people believe it to be subjectively unjust, what looks to be favoritism could be a manager depending on a top worker more than other employees. It could also be that the supervisor has stronger chemistry with a particular employee, which could be regarded as favoritism.
Or it could be a personal bond or blind loyalty to an incompetent employee based on his or her work style. To create your own relationship with your supervisor, you can only influence your performance, appearance, and work ethic.
Gregory Giangrande is a chief human resources officer with over 25 years of expertise. Hear Greg on iHeartRadio 710 WOR on Wednesdays at 9:35 a.m. with Len Berman and Michael Riedel. E-mail: GoToGreg@NYPost.com. Follow GoToGreg.com and @GregGiangrande on Twitter.